- 1. Have consistent expectations. If your typical children have chores and standards of behavior then so should your child with PWS. If you want your child with PWS to be an active and valued family member then they too should have chores and consequences just as your typical child does. Without this you will create an unnecessary environment of resentment and hostility towards your special needs child. Just remember that fair does not mean equal. Expectations may not be the same but they must exist. A well made bed or a set table may look different and that's ok as long as similar tasks are being asked of both children.
- 2. Give your non PWS children a safe place to talk about their feelings. Online support groups or sibling groups in person exist although they may be difficult to find. Start your own or at least encourage your children to connect to other siblings at conferences or local chapter meetings.
- 3. Let your kids come up with their own strategies to cope with behavioral issues with your approval. They will be more apt to become involved with a solution if they were part of its creation.
- 4. Make time for them. So much of your time goes to your child with PWS. Be sure that at least a few minutes a day goes to being alone with your other children. This is hard, I know, but so important.
- 5. Watch for splitting or in fighting after behavioral outbursts. It is so easy to feel out of control and blaming everyone else is often easier than feeling helpless to the syndrome. People make mistakes but more often than not it was the anxiety or inflexibility of the syndrome that caused the outburst, not your spouse, their teacher, the lady at the grocery store, etc...
- 6. If you have a spouse then date nights are probably ancient history. You may not have time or the resources to leave your kids for a night but don't forget to validate their feelings. If you're a mom then you probably do the majority of the work and attending to the needs of anyone aside from your kids seems impossible. Try to make an hour in your week to connect with your spouse even if it's sitting in the backyard after the kids go to sleep. It is important for you as a team to regroup and remain a united front.
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Support for Siblings
We Do Not Walk Alone
Caring for Yourself
“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much”